101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 4)

You will be grateful for what you struggle with once you get to the other side.

Change is in building what’s next, not in dismantling what was. The ultimate path to happiness is non-attachment.

Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is.

A lack of routine is just a breeding ground for perpetual procrastination.

Their emotions aren’t “somebody else’s doing,” and therefore “somebody else’s problem to resolve.”

If you genuinely disliked something, you would simply disengage with it.

Suffering is just the refusal to accept what is.

You’re learning, and evolving, and can identify the ways in which you’ve changed for better and worse.

Nobody wants to believe happiness is a choice, because that puts responsibility in their hands.

When things go beyond that limit, we sabotage ourselves so we can return to our comfort zones.

Most prefer the comfort of what they’ve known to the vulnerability of what they don’t.

You can have an incredible life and mourn wildly when it’s over, but at least there was a means to that end.

Seek what’s positive, and you’ll find that your threshold for feeling it expands as you decide it can.

You will never be ready for the things that matter.

Anxiety builds in our idle hours. Fear and resistance thrive when we’re avoiding the work.

You cannot save up your happiness; you can either feel it in the moment, or you miss it.

Meeting your own needs is the first step, not the ultimate goal.

You do owe something to the adult you are today.

Hunger is important. Complete fulfillment is the fast track to complacency. In fearing that happiness won’t last forever, we lose it

Social media is actually making us more emotionally disconnected.

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”

Make time for the friends you have more than you seek out the ones you don’t.

Just write down one sentence that sums up the day before bed. In a year, you’ll be grateful you did.

Go through your belongings and only keep what’s purposeful or beautiful to you

Call your mom. Not everybody has the privilege.

Rather than chasing “success,” chase kindness.

Do the most important things immediately in the morning.

Shed what no longer serves you.

Do not make decisions when you’re upset.

Take inventory of all the things you’ve thought and worried about that have turned out not to be real.

Make sure you’re living more than you’re thinking about living.

Identify your comfort zones, and step back into them now and again.

Do not live in the grey area when answers are available.

You need to open yourself. If you don’t, you’ll be stuck in the cocoon phase forever.

If you’re uncomfortable, you’re being pushed to think beyond what you’ve known.

Learn to see each day from the perspective of your older self.

Let your choices be guided by the person you hope to become.

Connect with people.

Create vision boards. Seeing the life you want is the first step to creating it.

You’ll regret what you didn’t do, not what you’ve done.

You get better, not perfect.

The more you accept other people, the more you’ll accept yourself.

Ask for help when you actually need help.

Fear is an indicator that something is powerful and worthwhile.

Learn how to relax. Work on learning how to happily do nothing.

Believe that everything is here to help us.

If we want to find peace, we need to know there’s a purpose for suffering.

People’s opinions of you are largely projections of how they see themselves

Many people write well. Few people write well and consistently.

Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story.

It’s just a matter of having the (often uncomfortable) commitment to keep growing.

“Safety” isn’t in certainty – but in faith that you can simply keep going.

“Enjoy what you do each day, no matter what you’re doing”

People who never get anything done wait to feel inspired.

Take photos to remember happy moments, not prove that you looked good or did something cool.

Just take a photo of whatever’s in front of you (however unworthy of Instagram it is)

The only way you grow is by stepping into the unknown.

Life isn’t about being “certain,” it’s about trying anyway.

You hold yourself accountable for your own happiness.

What you learn and who you become is more important than how you temporarily feel.

You have every right to rage and rant and hate every iota of someone’s being, but you also have the right to choose to be at peace.

The “good: teaches you well, but the “bad” teaches you better,

Ask yourself what you most feel you are lacking, then look at how little you’re giving them.

People who waste their lives search for reasons to love rather than ways to love.

Screens > people is basically the best way to create an extremely anxious lifestyle for yourself.

Life is small and simple and more than enough

You’re always busy, yet never productive enough..

It’s about which of your (often conflicting) desires you let win.

The one true sign that you’re moving ahead with your life is that you don’t know where you’re going.

The obsessive desire for a passionate relationship is usually a reflection of a lack of love for oneself

It’s doing, not thinking about doing, that creates a life well lived.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung

You ultimately are defined not by what you do, but how you do it.

Figure out what you crave, and figure out how to feed that need yourself.

Figure out what you most need to heal within yourself by seeing what you most want to change in others.

Everything is hard, ut you choose your hard. You choose what’s worth it.

You choose what you think about.

It’s all about growth at the end of the day.

It’s not about how much you get right, it’s how much you get better

“The only wait to fail is to abstain” – Johanna de Silento

A good life is not how it adds up in the end but what you’re counting along the way

If it’s in your life, there’s something to be learned from it

The foundation of a happy relationship (and life, really) is unconditional kindness.

Whatever you feel you are not receiving is a direct reflection of what you are not giving.

Give exactly what you want to get.

If you want to be understood, explain.

If you want to be happy, choose it.

Choose change. Never sit and fester in frustration.

If something can be solved, solve it. If it cannot, worrying and fretting will not suddenly change that.

You can choose who you are every day and it doesn’t have to be the same person you were yesterday.

You don’t remember years, you remember moments.

Growth means being able to experience and see more because you are aware of it.

“You haven’t failed until you’ve stopped trying.”

I can support myself, and I don’t have to answer or please anybody else.

I am always one choice away from changing everything.

Give love and do what you most genuinely want to.

For how many more years are you going to let your demons conquer you?

Learn to live your life more than you’re inclined to sit around wondering about it.

Rather than work toward an end goal, work toward liking the process of getting there.

If you’re looking for an excure as to why it’s not the right time, you’ll always fin one.

Everybody can have a job they love if they work hard enough.

Acceptance is the root of abundance.

Living to work as opposed to working to live is not a quality of life.

You’re allowed to be great at a lot of things that don’t necessarily relate to one another.

You do not have to be a novel; you can be a book of stories.

It’s a matter of how you connect, not who you have around

You should say no when you want to say no

You should rise and say, “This is who I am, even if you’ll crucify me for it”

The happier you are with what you do, the less you need other people to support you

You don’t “have” to, you “get” to

Every one of your actions fees something within you

Learn to keep your needs simple and your wants small

You don’t need to know what you’re doing to still do something extraordinary

Focus instead on what you want to do with each and every day of your existence

Not oen word anhbody says is more powerful or true than how you behave and ho you really are

Your life exists in its days. Not in your ideas about those days.

The opposite of pain isn’t joy – it’s acceptance.

You are only as alone as you think you are.

You cannot squeeze someone into your brokenness and expect that to make you whole.

You have to stop believing that you need other people’s permission to be okay with yourself.

People will love you more for loving yourself

How often you make time to do the things you want, not the things that are expected of you

That you donate the things you don’t need to the people who dod need them

Realize that your minds capacity is limitless if you so choose to pursue it

The ultimate path to happiness is non-attachment

What’s your favorite line so far?

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