It is wiser to tip the scales over rather than balance things you don’t like only because you believe balance will make you “happy.” It is wiser to spend a life chasing knowledge, or the ability to think clearly and with more dimension, that it is to just chase what “feels good.” As Cheryl Strayed says, “Real change happens on the level of the gesture. It’s one person doing one thing differently than they did before.”
You will need to figure out how to live in the moment, even if that seems boring, impossible, terrifying, or all three.
It’s not about checking off a -point task list; It’s about knowing that you accomplished something (anything!) that contributes to your well-being each day. Continue reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 3)
You will be grateful for what you struggle with once you get to the other side.
Change is in building what’s next, not in dismantling what was. The ultimate path to happiness is non-attachment.
Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is. Continue reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 4)
Success is a product of daily habits – not once in a lifetime transformations.
You get what you repeat.
Good habits make time your ally.
A number of problems arise if you spend too much time thinking about your goals and not enough time designing your system. Continue reading Atomic Habits by James Clear – Notes, Quotes and Highlights
How did she know I preferred reading to partying and working alone rather than in forced collaboration?
“But would any of those truly be a disaster of epic proportions?”
“Would anyone die? Would you be irreversibly broken?”
Would they be worth getting really worked up over?” Continue reading How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 1)
Know your best “you” is in there. It’s the you that surfaces around people with whom you are comfortable—your confidants, your closest family—or when you’re savoring your solitude. That’s the real you.
Just like a commitment to working out strengthens the body, a commitment to practicing thinking and acting differently strengthens the brain.
All our preparatory freaking out and after-the-fact self-flagellation not only doesn’t help; it actually sets us back, which is the exact opposite of what we were going for. Continue reading How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 2)
Rather than reading about how to ride a bicycle, we have to get on the bicycle.
I know I can get nervous and still do whatever I want.
Challenge yourself a little, on your own terms.
A socially anxious brain, physiologically, is exactly the same as a non-socially anxious brain. Continue reading How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 3)
It raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and execution to admit one’s mistakes.
By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than what you expected
Get the other person saying “yes, yes” at the outset. Keep you opponent, if possible, from saying No. Continue reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie – Notes, Quotes and Highlights
We must open ourselves up to the field of possibilities by asking ourselves, What do I want out of life?
What would you do if you could not fail?
What would you do if you didn’t have the problems that you have?
What would you do if you had all the money that you ever needed? Continue reading Never Get Angry Again by David J. Lieberman – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 1)
Once we can recognize—in the moment—what really matters, we no longer need to force ourselves to remain calm.
King Solomon, the wisest of men, wrote, “A lacking on the inside can never be satisfied with something from the outside.”5
When we don’t like who we are, we cannot help but become angry with ourselves. Then we take it out on the world around us and on the people who care most about us. Continue reading Never Get Angry Again by David J. Lieberman – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 2)
Time provides perspective, allowing us to see the situation with clarity.
Everything in life is draining for the person who doesn’t like who he has become.
When we don’t love ourselves, we can’t give love, and we can’t feel loved.
Or, to put it another way, getting angry actually makes us dumb. Continue reading Never Get Angry Again by David J. Lieberman – Notes, Quotes and Highlights (Part 3)